For the second time this week, just a day before I hit 30 weeks (!!!!), people are like “You still have til MARCH?!” (let alone the end of March!) “You’re not going to last that long!!”
*head desk*
People, let’s talk etiquette for a moment.
Things to say to a pregnant woman
“You look fantastic!”
“How are you feeling?”
Things not to say to a pregnant woman
“Wow! You look so big! How far along are you?!”
“You still have to go til {insert month here}?!”
“You’re going to have such a big baby!”
I mean, people, use common sense. Just like if you can’t obviously tell a woman is pregnant, don’t ask if she is because you don’t want to bear the wrath of asking a non-pregnant woman if she is in fact, with child.
Here’s my beef with the comments from this week, I don’t feel huge. In fact, 98% of people who see me are like “you look fantastic!” or “wait you’re how far along?!” I don’t feel like I look almost thirty weeks along despite feeling the heft of carrying something that will grow to be the size of a bowling ball inside of me.
So do your due diligence peeps, when commenting to a woman with child on how she looks, go for the easy route and just say she looks great because inside, she likely feels like a whale and doesn’t need to be reminded that she still has x number of weeks (give or take) of feeling that way knowing it’s only going to get worse.
If your instinct is to cut a bia, or give a snarky side remark, remember, most people don’t have ill-intentions. They just don’t know better or haven’t been pregnant, or haven’t been pregnant in this century, so they likely had a brief lapse in manners. Excuse them, and if you were offended? Don’t make a scene just brush the dirt off your shoulders and smile and go with it with by giving an answer that makes pregnancy sound like a breeze.
