On turning 30…

by Heidi on April 15, 2013

Today is Friday was my 30th birthday.

While my 30 before 30 list is collecting cobwebs, and making me feel like a failure just by keeping it up on the blog.

However, I was talking with a friend of mine earlier this weekend and I stopped to think… I’ve done a lot in the past decade. I feel really good about a lot of things. I won’t be making a 40 before 40 list anytime soon, but I feel less bad about what I haven’t accomplished when I think about what I have. My twenties were a really good decade. I shouldn’t undermine that by thinking about the have nots.

Some of my favorites?

I worked in the Massachusetts State Senate as an intern and witnessed some pretty cool shiz – and collected a lot of coffee from the bottom of Beacon Hill. Not as fun but the whole experience was pretty awesome.

I loved. Granted, it was young love. But I loved deeply, and got hurt and hurt someone. Deeply. But I’m convinced you don’t grow unless you experience real heartbreak because of what it teaches you about yourself.

I made my own dreams come true by working as an intern for Congress. Also, pretty bad ass. (Fun fact: when I was an intern, Hubs worked upstairs from me in Rayburn. He worked down the hall from Lexi whom I met when I was an intern. He also attended a few of the same receptions as me. Sliding Doors esque no?)

I went to the DNC in 2004. Not as a volunteer but as a freakin’ alternate delegate from my homestate. You can even find me in the political graveyard (hubs thought it was pretty baller when we started dating). And Bono kissed my hand at an early morning breakfast reception. Boo. Yah.

I traveled to Singapore, London, Amsterdam. I’ve traveled with friends, shown myself around a city, went on an amazing honeymoon in San Juan, PR. I’ve been to Manhattan, Chicago, San Antonio, Fort Lauderdale, Montreal, Toronto, the beaches of Cape Cod and then some. While there’s dozens of places I can’t wait to visit, now I can visit them with my family.

{in Amsterdam – 2006 at the Heineken factory}

I graduated college and was the first of my siblings and my paternal cousins to do so.


mediploma{post graduation}

I partied. Oh man did I party. I had a lot of fun. Late nights, dancing with friends, after parties, the works. Things a 21 year old should have fun doing at least once (though I may have done them for a couple of years), but I’m ready to throw that towel in. Long before my 30th birthday, I just got too tired to stay out til last call, and sleeping away the next day hungover.

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{one of many after Senate gatherings at Conor Larkins in Boston}

I made great friends. Friends who stood next to me on my wedding day. That I’ve called when I just need a chat. That have called me when they just needed a chat. That I’ve laughed with, cried with and shared so many fun experiences with. Friends that are low maintenance and life long – no matter where we live because well, we don’t live close at all anymore.

 {pre-graduation reception 2006}

{First NU Homecoming as Alumni 2006}

I fell in love. For reals. Not young love. But real, true love. For better or worse love. Each day, I fall in love with him over and over again.

{San Antonio February 2012}

Then, I got married. And it was a great, great day and I will never, ever forget anything about that day.

{wedding September 2009}

I had good jobs, and bad jobs. Bosses that have been amazing and supportive, and ones that have been abusive and degrading. I’ve learned about myself, where I want to go, what I want to do and who I want to be. While I’m focused on being a mama right now, I do look forward to moving ahead on those goals that I’ve established for myself over the past few years in regards to my career.

I’ve ran many miles. Four marathons. Four half marathons. A number of other road races. Getting back into running has given me something amazing to be passionate about and kept my body in decent shape.

{After the Hartford Marathon in October 2008}

I became a mother. The most amazing feat – second only to the whole marriage thing – which for 39 weeks and two days and subsequently the past twenty-one three days have been an amazing – albeit tiresome – journey. Ethan is a blessing and I couldn’t be more in love with him.

{Easter 2013 – Ethan at 9 days old}

So turning 30 isn’t about what I haven’t done. I thought long and hard about what I have done, and the knowledge and life experiences I take with me into this next decade and next stage of life. I’m excited to embark on my 30′s (even this weekend has been…not that great sans lunch on Friday, and dinner Saturday) as a mama, with Adam,  while watch Ethan grow and teach him how to be a smart little boy.

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  • http://twitter.com/swegl sara (burson) willis

    I love you to pieces, lady! So proud of you!

    • legallyheidi

      d’awww back at you lady :) :) xox

  • themoderngal

    Happy birthday! I think it’s just good practice to focus on what you’ve done rather than what you haven’t :)

    • legallyheidi

      i agree :) Thanks for the birthday wishes :) :)

  • KT S

    I love that instead of doing a “what haven’t I done yet” your list was all of the fun things that you have accomplished. Happy birthday!!

  • http://twitter.com/katelin Katelin

    love this so much & hope you had a most fabulous birthday!

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